5- Ways to Find and Keep Friends | artiedavis.com

A great post I found. I will add more as I am thinking about friendship. “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” — C.S. Lewis

It has been said that friends are the truest treasure. I think that has great truth, unfortunately, there are few that find these treasures in quality & fewer those that find quality & quantity! Having invested in relationships that I thought were good, only to find myself disheartened and betrayed. I have found others that bring life, joy & unconditional love. I have all so discovered some principles in finding and keeping such great relationships:

1. Always initiate, always! If you wait for someone else to invite you, you will be waiting a long time. So be brave, make that call, make that move invitation!

2. Never judge! Friends love unconditionally. They may challenge, but never judge those they care for. You must love unconditionally. A friend doesn’t need you to “Fix” them, just listen to them.

3. Make them a priority! Friends are important, they need to know they are high on your list. All friendships come with sacrifice! If you don’t give up things for your friends, you won’t have any!

4. Always extend grace! You cannot be easily offended. It’s like being married, you don’t quit! Get over it! No one likes to hang out with someone they have to walk on egg shells around.

5. Expect the best! Speak life, hope, joy & a future into your friends! Let them know you believe in them! People always migrate to those that make them feel good about themselves! Build up your friends!In the infamous words of Winston Churchill, “Never, Never, Never quit.” Have you found anything in your life journey with friends you would like to add to the list? reply bellow ↓

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Family camping

My family grew up camping but my wife’s did not. We went camping for the first time as a family at the Oak Hollow Campground in High Point, NC. My parents bought us a 10 piece package from Sams club in 2008 after we lost Nathaniel. I was hoping to get out some that year and grow our family tighter together. Life got in the way until recently we had friends visiting from Missouri and they were up for camping. The weather took a break from its 90+ degrees to gives us some beautiful weather. Lows at night were in the 50’s and highs were in the mid 70’s. Wonderful for tent camping and especially great when my extension cord was not long enough to bring a fan to the tent.

We had a great time swimming and hanging out with our friends from Missouri. It had been almost 3 years since we last saw them. It was kinda nice to talk to someone outside of my normal circle about some of the thoughts and stuff regarding jobs, future, and ministry that have been swirling around in my head.

Saturday morning we went back to counseling. I really do not like talking with our counselor, but I do like the things he asks us to read. They have been way more beneficial than our conversations.

I really enjoyed sitting outside and listening to the birds sing and the breeze blow by. I really like being outside and have not be outside near as much this year as I am usually.

Three Convictions About Children’s Ministry – Perry Noble

Perry Noble said this and I have to agree with him. I wondering why the children and youth ministries are always the ones that get the leftovers and they are the ones to have the budgets cut first.

It seems to me that the Church is missing the point!

Here are three convictions I have about children’s ministry…

#1 – If you want to reach kids…then you’ve got to spend money on them. It BLOWS me away that church world always seems to be scratching our heads and wondering why kids FLOCK to Disney (even the Baptist ones) but they don’t flock to church. MAYBE it’s because Disney spends “squillions” of dollars on them…and many churches have more money in their graveyard fund than they do their children’s budget. We will spend money on what is important…and I think children’s (and student) ministry is THE most important mission field in the church.

#2 – If you want to reach kids…they’ve got to have fun. When I was growing up “fun” and “church” were never used in the same sentence; therefore, as soon as my mother died and I didn’t have to go to church anymore…I didn’t. Kids are not growing closer to Jesus by being forced to sit and listen…or by coloring (with crayons provided by their parents). They should want to come to church, should look forward to coming to church…and so we unapologetically go all out every week to make sure these kids have a GREAT time.

#3 – If you want to reach kids…they’ve got to learn something. I’ve told our children’s ministry that when parents come pick up their kids that they will ask two questions – the first will be “did you have fun,” and the second will be, “what did you learn?” I think told our children’s team…make sure kids can answer both in a positive way…and THAT’S a win. (BTW…a “WIN” is when the parents and the kids actually talk about what the child learned! When parents and the church work together…its an awesome team!

via Three Convictions About Children’s Ministry – Sunday Night Reflections :: Perry Noble | Leadership, Vision & Creativity.


Hey Pastor, Want A Successful Youth Ministry? :: Perry Noble

I wish and pray for a pastor who thinks this way. It is speaking my language.

#1 – I hired a leader, someone I could trust, someone I would not have to stand beside and make decisions for. Some pastors won’t do this because they need to be needed! AND…I made sure he was able to assemble the team he wanted around him…I did not hire for him!#2 – I made sure he was resourced. We don’t do car washes or bake sales…and we never have. I’ve read that over 85% of the decisions to follow Christ happen before the age of 18…if THAT ISN’T a ripe mission field then I don’t know what is. Churches don’t make the senior adults do a bake sale if they want to go somewhere…why in the heck do they make the students do it? By the way…it’s ALWAYS been this way, so please don’t email me with, “What did you guys do when you were small?” We took care of our students…period!#3 – I make sure he understands the vision of our church. I spend time with him…we go to lunch, he sends me texts that encourage the heck out of me. If he ever has a question about vision…he asks me.

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What if the Church were Run Like an Airline?

–Valet parking:  $20 plus tip

–No Bible charge: $10

–Cell phone ringing during service:  $50 one time charge

–Late to service fee:  $10/pp

–“Sing that chorus one less time” request:  $20

–Nursery diaper change fee:  $5/lb.

–KJV upgrade to NIV:  $15

–U-PIC the sermon topic:  $250

–Hit job on the organist (rates vary per city/church)

–Online tithing discount rate:  8%

–Music Volume Up fee:  $20

–Music Volume Down fee:  $20

What would you add?

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Free Debt Snowball Spreadsheet

A great resource

Free Debt Snowball Spreadsheet

Vertex42, a site devoted to Microsoft Excel templates, spreadsheets, and calendars, has posted a free debt snowball calculator. From the description: This spreadsheet allows you to choose different debt reduction strategies, including the debt snowball effect paying the lowest balance first and highest interest first. Just choose the strategy from a dropdown box after you enter your creditor information into the worksheet.

via Free Debt Snowball Spreadsheet.

Reading, stretching, and growing!

“Stop thinking of God’s will like a corn maze, or a tightrope, or a bull’s-eye” p25-26. Get it here

I read this earlier this week and I wanted to record some thoughts while I was thinking about it. I am been hoping to examine what God wants me to do next.

  • Am I to stay in a church ministry setting?
  • Is Army Chaplaincy the next step for my family?
  • Should I be looking for a non church job?

Update for this post. I am filling out a questionnaire for a possible youth pastor position.I am not totally sure I am I want to but I am willing to see what God might have planned for our family and my ministry.

I am working on my NAMB endorsement for military chaplaincy. I went by the Army recruiters office today [6-18-2010] and got my body fat measured. I have a 23% body fat. The Army allows 28%. I am really glad. I was really worried about having to lose 20 some pounds. I still want to lose some weight and get in shape but it is not such a vital thing. I meet all the qualifications for an Army chaplain.

I have also filled out at an application for Wells Fargo at the recommendation of a community group member who works there. I am not totally excited about the opportunity but it would mean full time and probably benefits until something else opened up.